It's hard

Loving someone should be hard and active, not easy and passive.
When you sign up to actually love people - no fakers allowed - then you sign up for a life of runny noses, awkward car rides, hugs that last too long, pauses that demand no noises, and admitting you were wrong.
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If you want to actually love people then you have to be willing to be wrong.
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Love is forgiveness. And it's atonement.
And it's basically putting your soul in a washing machine - it's not some gentle cycle, it's a fierce whipping that rings you out good.
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It makes the stain fade.
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Best of all,
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It fills the hole.